Turns out, having sex is actually good for mood, fitness levels, and marital satisfaction

Turns out, having sex is actually good for mood, fitness levels, and marital satisfaction.

Ever wondered: is it important to have sex? From emotional benefits to physical perks, sex experts have long hailed sexual intimacy as a surefire way to boost your health.

That said, when we asked three top industry experts for their take on whether sex is actually important, the response was... well, mixed. 

While everyone's libido and sex life will be different, you're not alone if you assume everyone is having more sex than you. According to one Hims & Hers sex report, 81% of Brits assume other people are having sex once a week or more, when in fact, only 45% of them actually do.

Is it important to have sex? Your expert-led guide

Sex has been scientifically proven to offer physical and mental health benefits. A 2021 study, for example, found that anxiety and depression were significantly lower in those that were sexually active during the Covid-19 lockdown, compared to those who weren’t getting it on. Research published in the British Medical Journal has also shown that having sex - and an interest in it - can be a boost to health in middle age and later life. 

“Sex can build intimacy with a partner, which strengthens the bond whether in a relationship or dating someone,” explains Alex Griffiths, co-founder of sex-care brand Roam. However, libido plays a big part - “it varies between individuals so the importance of it varies depending on how someone feels and what makes them happy.” 

Erika Lust, a leading producer of ethical porn, agrees: “Sex is as important as you need it to be.” As Lust points out, the ways we enjoy intimacy look different for each person. “Both folk who enjoy sex and want it actively in their lives and relationships, and those who enjoy intimacy from a detached experience of sex are just as valid,” she stresses. 

"The essential thing in a relationship is that there is communication, consent and listening," says Lust. "As long as these factors exist, the people involved in the relationship will be able to develop the model of sexual dynamics that is most appropriate and convenient for them at that moment."